Wednesday, December 14, 2011

Riddle Me This....

Why is it that I cannot go anywhere in social marketing without someone schooling me on being a birth mother? I know all the generations sonny, I understand the repressed laws and awful social stigmas that come with being a birth mother. I know that not all birth mothers have my story or the outcome that I have. I know this. I get it. And just because I HAVE had a good experience in adoption does NOT MEAN I do not understand.


If I tell some of my story, perhaps I am doing so because people need to know that open adoption CAN work sometimes. If I decide to do giveaways of my book it is not because I am all happy go lucky about adoption, it is because I am trying to help people see what our side is like, what we go through not just at the time of the adoption but for every single day after. If I choose to sound happy it is because I am and I see nothing wrong with being happy in life. 

Stop telling me who I am not. Stop stalking me to push your agenda on my life. Stop with all coercion talk and try seeing someone else's point of view, would you? NOT everyone in adoption is as unhappy as others ... and if someone is content in adoption then put your jealousy away and just let that person be.

Especially me! I thank you for reading, but if you want to personally attack me then send me an email. I would be more than happy to address you directly and really talk about these issues. Otherwise, read ... drink it in ... and move on. Every life has a story to it, and no ones story is going to change because you say it should.

5 comments:

Kristine said...

Bah! I'm sorry you have to deal with so much of that kind of stuff. Being an adoptive mom I haven't had it like you have (I'm certain!) but I've been surprised at as much as I still have. Being told who I'm not. Being told I don't understand, etc. I'm not perfect at just ignoring it, but getting better ever day! lol!

chittisterchildren said...

Excellent post! Some people simply can't see another's point of view. I'm sorry you have to deal with this.

A Life Being Lived said...

Kelsey, I am awed by your continual refusal to give in to the naysayers and the way you choose to live your life, your story, and respect all others who have different ones. Your blog was one of the first I read when I was pregnant and considering adoption. It was possibly the only positive birthparent story I had encountered (when I was first looking into adoption). I do not believe it was an accident. I needed strength and support and a voice who said "you can do this", and your blog pushed me to research and look deeper. I gave my daughter the best life I could have, and in the circumstances I faced, in the moccassins I was wearing at that time, it was the best decision, and continues to be the best decision, I have ever made in my life. Thank you so much for continuing to tell your story and show the world that there are positives in adoption.

I am said...

It's odd to be informed, by a complete stranger, s/he knows the real truth you hide from yourself. Stranger still when that person ignores every word you say.

Susan said...

I feel sorry for the haters but I am continually grateful to hear your story of love and positivity in open adoption. As a hopeful adoptive parent, it truly helps me to know that there are successful open adoptions out there - real people with relationships that work. All so that child can have the best life possible! <3