Do you like being told what to do? Would you like to be told what to do with your baby? What if someone wanted to propose a law that would force you to do something you did not want to do? These are questions that are not only hard to answer, but for some of us are hard to read.
Things are a brewing in the adoption world and it all revolves around one bill in the State of Oregon. I have been reading so much about HB 2904 and it has been bringing up all the bad memories that I have from my first adoption. You see, although I had done my best to prepare for what I was to embark on, MY home State of Missouri decided to come in at the last minute and make life hell for me and my family. Although I had done all I could to go about the process of adoption the right way, THEY told me that I had done it wrong. Nothing worse than having someone tell you what you can or cannot do with your child. It is degrading.
This concern is at the center of House Bill 2904 that is being proposed in Oregon. Among the many changes in this bill is the need to have the birth mother wait 8 days to place their children with the families chosen to raise them. 8 days. Not only that, if the mother chooses not to keep the baby with her for those 8 days, then the baby will be placed in foster care for those 8 days until the wait time elapses. In my opinion, not such a great idea.
There are many changes that will prolong and possibly add to the birth mothers stress and strife. I encourage you to take a look at all this Bill is proposing, and then think long and hard about what this Bill is saying to those wanting to choose adoption. To me it says .... "You don't really know what you want so we are going to show you just how difficult we can make things for you, as if it was not already difficult enough."
Please, I ask you to read for yourself what this Bill has to offer. There is a blog set up just for the education of this Bill. When you read this blog you will not only find more information about the Bill, but also see that there are some inconsistencies about those who think this Bill will help adoption. Believe me, there are some very curious things surrounding HB 2904 and if you care at all about what the adoption world has to offer then you will take the time to educate yourself as to what this will mean in the long run.
I know that I have already written Reps Doherty and Dembrow to share my own issues with this proposal. Please take a look and decide for yourself what you think is right. Then you too can write if you feel it is something that needs your attention.