tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2954722762708102532.post6276384158051813495..comments2023-08-20T05:54:36.166-07:00Comments on A Birth Mother Voice: An Open Letter To Birth MothersKelsey Stewart, Authorhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11772746376820263241noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2954722762708102532.post-34309872272406029602011-05-05T22:47:07.162-07:002011-05-05T22:47:07.162-07:00I hope the birth mothers of my sons feel they are ...I hope the birth mothers of my sons feel they are as strong as you are, Kelsey. Happy Birth Mother's Day and Happy Mother's Day!<br />God bless you! Lisaatshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09960526967920243446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2954722762708102532.post-79532966922786957772010-06-02T15:35:32.814-07:002010-06-02T15:35:32.814-07:00If I were a man, I would marry you right now! Than...If I were a man, I would marry you right now! Thank you for lifting my spirits today Perr, and I am happy to hear that my words can give you comfort!!!!<br />xoxoxoxoxoxoKelsey Stewart, Authorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11772746376820263241noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2954722762708102532.post-58881991028366484872010-06-02T10:30:57.706-07:002010-06-02T10:30:57.706-07:00I love this post. Love it! I am always in awe of y...I love this post. Love it! I am always in awe of your beautiful voice, and after reading this post, I was floored. Absolutely speechless. You put words to what I cannot. Of the continual awareness of trying to get your heart and mind in line with one another. I too, live with my double edged sword every day, though in reverse of you. My own children were here when I made the decision to place. You got it EXACTLY right when you said, "For some, we have our own children to raise, our own little souls that help us to realize just how much we gave up." I look at my children everyday, with gratitude and love, and sometimes, out of the blue, an overwhelming sense of loss when I realize that they have done something I will never see my littlest one do. <br /><br />I especially loved this line..." You may be a mother of loss, but you are not a mother of defeat." It is a continual struggle to hold it together for the sake of those I love, when a moment of grief or sorrow creeps into my "moving on" life. Your words give hope, Kelsey.<br /><br />They give wisdom. They help others know that it is possible to move forward, as a mother removed, and still accomplish great things and find great happiness. Thank you so much for this fantastic post!MrsPerrbearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08289577668126018333noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2954722762708102532.post-24999633333258178362010-05-24T22:40:25.025-07:002010-05-24T22:40:25.025-07:00What part of this statement: "I am fine with ...What part of this statement: "I am fine with who I am and I will not change for you or any others out there, thank you very much!" Did you not read Von? She is who she chooses to be.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2954722762708102532.post-81254934785894354432010-05-24T16:30:30.049-07:002010-05-24T16:30:30.049-07:00I'm sorry you have to defend birth mothers and...I'm sorry you have to defend birth mothers and your choice. I am so impressed by anyone who has the guts to do what you (and my daughter's mother) did (and continue to deal with). I know people have also insulted my daughter's mother, telling her she "gave away" her child. I can't even imagine how hard it was/is. The best that I can do -- on my end, as the mother who adopted -- is to nourish the relationship between my daughter and her mother. I hope that maybe - just maybe -- when those ignorant people speak or when those little things happen in life that pierce like tiny daggers, my daughter's mother will have some peace.<br /><br />BTW, I don't do the birth mother thing. Or first mother. Nikki is just plain Maya's mother. Kids with step mothers have two mothers; kids with gay parents have two mothers. No reason why my little girl can't have two mothers also. Two mothers who have different roles in her life. But two mothers nonetheless. I'm not up for being an "adoptive" mother, so I have a hard time having Nikki be the "birth mother." <br /><br />Michelle<br /><br />http://fourgardnersandme.blogspot.com/Michellehttp://fourgardnersandme.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2954722762708102532.post-28488233886506080572010-05-24T15:30:25.609-07:002010-05-24T15:30:25.609-07:00You are mothers not birth-mothers, not beemoms or ...You are mothers not birth-mothers, not beemoms or anything else...mothers.Others who lay claim to your name are adopters.<br />So many agencies, churches throughout the adopton industry use clever selling techniques these days and in some ways are worse of than your generation of mothers.Vonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17421069895155350144noreply@blogger.com