tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2954722762708102532.post4620782551183302640..comments2023-08-20T05:54:36.166-07:00Comments on A Birth Mother Voice: The Scam of a Birth MotherKelsey Stewart, Authorhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11772746376820263241noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2954722762708102532.post-24453666793361629642010-04-26T18:56:58.806-07:002010-04-26T18:56:58.806-07:00Ialso think more is needed to educate the general ...Ialso think more is needed to educate the general public about birthmothers and ther stories and that they are individuals and everyone is different. I do understand that these things that are splattered all over the news do nothing but promote a negative image. You can only relate if you have had anything remotely happen that is similiar. As a foster parent looking to adopt the children that I parented for 2 year before finalization. I get the negative sterotypes of foster parents. Money-hungery, abusive and glorified-babysitters among other stereotypes. You don't hear about the FP that nurse children back to health and guide an teenager but rather a news breaking story about FP's with kids in chicken coups or the woman who doesn't seek treatment for a child with PICA. These things happen it's true but is it the general rule about fosterparents? Believe me I deal with the thoughts that children adopted from fostercare are damaged goods with all sorts of problems. I am offended and hurt by these things as well as the thought that birthmothers would scam adoptive parents. It really means more education is needed to understand the individual in the adoption triad.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2954722762708102532.post-20371221322767264362010-04-26T10:42:35.434-07:002010-04-26T10:42:35.434-07:00I am a mom through adoption and am always upset th...I am a mom through adoption and am always upset that the media always focuses on the negative aspects of adoption ... I understand that these are real but there are blessing in adoption and people who may consider adoption as a way to have a family can be scared away from only hearing the negative.<br /><br />I facilitate education groups about the aspects of domestic open adoption and always run into the myths surround birthmothers ... one of the weeks include a panel of birth mothers to come and share their experiences and the groups are always amazed that the birth mothers they meet are just like you and me!<br /><br />We are blessed with two girls and our family has seamlessly expanded to include our daughter's birth mothers and their extended family ...<br /><br />I wish more people would here our kinds of stories to see the balance of the good out there too!MommySquaredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07394551261768566946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2954722762708102532.post-19582514238292409972010-04-26T10:37:39.865-07:002010-04-26T10:37:39.865-07:00When we were going thru our adoption journey, we h...When we were going thru our adoption journey, we had contact from 4 "birthmothers" that were scams. (I put it in quotes, because it could very well have been a man or a woman who was not pregnant) Unfortunately because of the simplicity of the internet, it's easy for people to prey on you. Thankfully for us, we were working with the IAC. Two of the emails were obvious scams to them, and they gave us the right questions to ask and things to say to them in our response, and they did not contact us again. One of them had contacted many of their clients so they sent out a warning to all. There was one we emailed a few times, but when we told them about the IAC and asked if they could contact them for further information, we never heard from them again either. Later we learned they were contacting other couples as well. <br /><br />It's very sad that there are people out there who would pose as birthmothers to extort money from couples who are eager to have children and most times suffering because of whatever reason that they are unable to have children.<br /><br />We are so thankful that we were working with an agency that was there to help us and protect us from the scams. <br /><br />TammyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com